Last week I met up with some of my dearest girlfriends. We are all finally fully vaccinated against the threat of Covid-19 so we decided to convene a gathering of the sisterhood. It was time!
It was so incredibly lovely. We talked and we chatted and we laughed. Oh – how we laughed. We laughed and we laughed and we laughed some more. Some of us laughed so hard our faces glowed bright red!
We shared tales of our beloved children and grandchildren. (No – I don’t have any grandchildren yet – but many of my coolest friends do!)
We delighted in the ease and joy of an evening with beloved friends. Time flew by like it had wings.
We reminisced. We all have history together (some of us more than others). And we reflected on how we have all been changed by Covid-19. This pandemic has changed us. We are different. Our families are different. We see the world differently now and we likely always will.
We have all learned things about ourselves and our loved ones during this pandemic! Some of the things we learned were intriguing – some were inspiring and some were simply learned and endured . . .
I noticed how we have been changed by Covid-19. Covid-19 has changed our unconscious patterns – habits and actions.
All of us are thrilled to be fully vaccinated. We talked about the relief we all felt two weeks following our second vaccination. Science tells us we all have a pretty significant immunity to Covid-19 and likely cannot catch or spread Covid-19. And yet . . . we all brought our own chairs and we set them up in a socially distant circle. We sat at least 6 feet apart from one another the entire time!
We did not touch one another. Not a single hug was exchanged. Nary a pat on the back was given. I spotted hand sanitizer being used and the moment I climbed into my car I used my own.
We did not wear masks – but that was our single concession to being fully vaccinated against Covid-19.
The world feels different. It has changed and many of us have been changed right along with it. We have been changed. We are different.
Just like it took time to adjust to wearing masks and to remember to stand at a safe social distance – it is going to take time to readjust. It is going to take time to edge closer to others again. To trust the invisible protection offered by our vaccinations. I think this is especially true of folks like me.
I have always been cautious by nature. My children wear helmets on their bikes and scooters and while skateboarding – because I insist. I won’t drive if I have had a single adult beverage. I wear my seatbelt to move the car from the driveway to the curb. We eat organic. I look both ways multiple times before crossing the road. I always – always use my turn signal even when in the turn lane! I dress in layers and always opt for sturdy walking shoes. I simply do not throw caution to the wind.
I know that I – at least – have always been this way. I never enjoyed roller coasters – scary movies – driving fast or breaking the rules. The most rebellious thing I have ever done is marry and stay married to the same man for 23 years and counting (long story – sad family of origin).
So I and those like me are going to need time and grace. We are the cautious ones. We are the folks who didn’t mind wearing masks and kept to our Covid-19 bubbles. We may be feeling a bit protective of our little ones who are not able to receive life-protecting immunizations yet. This is who we are.
We will meet you in the coffee shop and at the restaurant – eventually – but maybe not just yet. Perhaps for now we can get our coffee to go and we can go for a walk together! Walking is lovely and it is safe and outside . . .
We are all going to emerge from Covid-19 at different paces and in different styles. Your style might just be the polar opposite of your brother in Christ’s style. What you long for and what makes sense for you might make your sister in Christ nervous. We are all so very – very different from one another. I encourage you to be patient and gracious with one another. Remember what makes sense to you may seem uncomfortable to your neighbor.
You are all in my heart – thoughts – and prayers.
In Christ and with Love –